Posts tagged ‘thoughts’

January 24, 2012

Girl Interrupted

by Kaylee Pare

It’s so often that I find myself spending hours on end in front a screen. In today’s world, this is a reality that so many of us experience. Flipping through channels, typing ceaselessly – blackberry in hand where it dare not leave – and continually glancing at clocks, turning up the radio, answering the phone. All of these dependencies can become so routine that we don’t even notice how seemingly crucial they’ve become.

In my early teens, I attended summer camp where these types of devices became worthless. Watches and time-keeping were not permitted, as the daylight would allow the routine to establish itself naturally. Hours would pass before someone realized it was time for lunch; whereas elsewhere, the clock striking twelve would indicate mealtime. We were never really aware of a day’s length. In a world where 8-hour shifts, 40-hour weeks, 1-hour meetings and any other thinkable numerical value reigns, it was (now that I am old enough to realize it) liberating being relieved of any sort of schedule.

Although I was quite young when I experienced this woodsy freedom, I know that it has affected me in the long run. I stop myself every few weeks, realizing I haven’t taken it all in. So, in an attempt to offer myself (and in turn, my readers) some advice, here are a few things that will give you a chance to turn your back on technology, and actually think about something without a beep in your ear or a flash of light in your eye. Don’t panic. You’ll survive it.

1. Write in a journal, for no one else but yourself. Try not to think about what you’re writing. Don’t imagine someone reading it, or maybe even worse, don’t imagine yourself re-reading it. Don’t judge yourself for what you’re writing. Write what you feel, what you do, what you’re thinking. You’ll probably end up writing something you never even knew was in you.

2. Go for a walk. Leave your phone, iPod and watch at home. Discover a new nook of your neighborhood. Walk somewhere you’d normally drive or take public transit to. Forget about your day planner and enjoy the scenery. There’s likely something around the corner you missed between emails. And if there isn’t, you’ll undoubtedly clear your head of the day’s anxieties.

3. Take the night off. Warn your friends, family, co-workers and Twitter followers that you will be out of touch for a few hours – and then stage a blackout. Seriously. Pretend everything around you is inoperative. Do you even know what you would do? If you think you’ll be bored, then you’re more hooked than I thought. Read a book, write someone a letter, sort through piles of photographs, make a bucket list…the possibilities are endless. You’ll have more fun than you thought possible without a playlist, TV show or group chat full of gossip at your fingertips.

Uninterrupted alone time. Don't underestimate it.

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January 13, 2012

Bright Lights

by Kaylee Pare

This past week has been quite the whirlwind. My family and I drove from Florida back home to Montreal (a 26 hour trek that we do almost every year so our dog doesn’t have to fly), I immediately began packing up my belongings upon our return home, and a few days later, I was driving to a new city to start a fresh chapter of life. I’ve now settled into a loft in Toronto where my boyfriend and I are searching for new jobs, and roaming the streets stumbling upon quaint restaurants and inviting boutiques. A whirlwind indeed. But I can’t say it’s not a welcomed change. After spending three thrilling months backpacking in Europe, the ‘daily grind’ as we call it, is nice to be apart of. Sometimes a swift change of pace is exhilarating, even if it involves a scheduled routine.

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November 25, 2011

Dream Big.

by Kaylee Pare

This is a great quote to kick off the weekend. Sometimes it’s important to remember that you can do anything if you just believe in yourself. No matter how much confidence others have in you, there’s nothing more powerful than the will sparking inside of you. But, it’s Friday, so don’t take yourself too seriously either. Have a magnificent weekend!

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July 7, 2011

Strain

by Kaylee Pare

You know that feeling of guilt? When you try your mightiest to stretch time and love to every facet of your life? For me, the list is long (as I’m sure yours is); work, family, friends, boyfriend, blogs, my own sanity and all those little things I find myself committing to (in no particular order). This is not a complaint, just a general feeling of strain. When I get home from work at around 6:30 on a good day, all I want to do is blog. It’s really my favourite pass-time and I know in my heart that if I keep at it, it could become a career one day. The trouble is, I always seem to be substituting something or someone. I’ll never intentionally put my blog first from my relationships, but I often find myself reaching for my laptop two minutes after dinner or immediately once I’ve entered the door. It’s nothing personal, it’s a passion, one that I cannot leave behind. Writing and researching makes me happy, I even secretly started writing a book the other day…and I don’t even know why. Anyway, even if you don’t have a blog, I know you’ve felt this before. When I moved away from home for the first time, one of the toughest things I dealt with was coming home to so many people who deserved my time, but just one weekend to see them all. I’ve read about first-time mothers who have this feeling too, all they want to do is care for their child, but they can’t break the ties they had before or give up the responsibilities they had pre-baby. So, I guess this is a life-long feeling. Guilt-ridden thoughts that make you wonder if people are angry with you for cancelling or upset if you feel the need to blog every night.

The only solution I can think of is doing what feels right. Selfish is not as bad a word as it’s made out to be; sometimes it’s necessary and warranted. After all, we should be allowed to direct our own lives, do what makes us happy, with the people who make us smile…and the blogs that force us to be honest and work hard.

Precisely. :)

July 4, 2011

Non Stop Cravings

by Kaylee Pare

While I’ve had my fair share of holiday these past few weeks, I haven’t seen a beach in more than a year, and it’s made me yearn for it lately. I crave the smell of the ocean, the feeling of sand under my feet and most especially, the sound of the waves. There’s nothing more soothing than a serene beach, I can’t wait for September when I’ll be in Europe and the beach will be my daily indulgence.


White on white
is so now, but I’m also loving gray on gray at the moment. It’s laid back but can look so very chic. I’ll definitely be on the look out for key pieces to emulate this sophisticated look with soon.


I really am all about accessorising. I’ll often purposely buy a plain ensemble for the singular purpose of accessorising it like crazy. Since I wear my pieces so often, I find I can tire of them very quickly. That’s why I always try to liven things up with small purchases every once and a while. A cheap bangle here, a vintage find there, it always seems to mix things up and force me to reinvent the way I wear things. I haven’t done this in a while, so a new item is definitely on my mind!

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June 15, 2011

Spontaneity

by Kaylee Pare

If you know me, you know that I’m a huge advocate for spontaneity. Nothing makes me smile more than being impulsive; no plans, no schedule, just being in the moment and doing what feels right. I really think it’s one of the best parts of life; we can’t control certain parts of our lives anyway, so why plan every moment of it as though we can?

This is why my most recent excitement is worthy of a blog post- a veryyyyy spontaneous trip to Las Vegas. If you knew my family, you probably wouldn’t be surprised to hear that on my parent’s 25th anniversary, they want to party in Vegas with my boyfriend and I. Well, all I can say is I must’ve gotten it somewhere because just the idea of booking a 5-day trip 10 days in advance (with 4 jobs to consider), made us all extremely giddy. Could it really happen? Of course it could.

The trip is booked for June 23rd to the 28th (we booked today, the 14th!). I cannot wait to show you pictures from the trip and tell you all about it, and please, if you have any tips or must-sees, do comment!

This post isn’t meant to rub my upcoming trip in your face, I swear! (Keep in mind, I haven’t been away in more than 10 months). The lesson here is to stay in the moment always. Do what’s in your heart, and deal with all those thoughts of yours later. Life is all about taking risks, and if you can change just one little thing about your day, week or life, try it out and see what transpires. You may end up regretting it, or it could be the best decision you ever made.

See you soon!

May 19, 2011

Puzzled Packing

by Kaylee Pare

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Based upon the genre of my blog, I’m sure you can guess that I love fashion. I love to dress up; I find bananas-beautiful heels to be worth every blister and I hold my jewelry collection in high regard. Suffice it to say, style is an integral part of my life. Fast forward a few months from now, and I’m left with only a backpack of belongings for a few months of traveling the depths of Europe. The question of how on earth to maintain my passion while remaining a smart and savvy traveler, has literally plagued me for weeks. How on earth will I survive on but a few outfits? I’m told 5 pairs of shoes is over-the-top? Gulp. How on earth?

Ok. Before you begin to think I’m some materialistic fool who can’t appreciate the chance to backpack across Europe, you’ve got another thing coming. In my youth (a mere half-decade ago), I shed all semblance of style, for a 50-day canoe trip in the woods, with nothing but 6 girls, 2 outfits (1 for day, 1 for night) and (cringe) a muddy pair of hiking boots. Let’s just say that Anna Wintour would not be impressed. The end result of this experience, however, was a lifetime of lessons and an unbreakable bond with my companions and nature itself.

You would think a life-changing trip of the sort would have propelled me into environment-saving sainthood, but alas, I am back where I began, appreciative of the earth no less, but still addicted to everything fashion has to offer. Do tell me, how do you pack for 3 months when every single item you decide to bring will be weighing heavily on your very own back!? I’m hoping that in the weeks I have to prepare, the answer will come to me like one of Oprah’s ‘aha-moments’. In any case, I’ll keep you posted on what I come up with. Perhaps this can become a blog activity; these shoes or those? This nail polish or the other? I’m allowed to bring nail polish right? …

May 11, 2011

For You

by Kaylee Pare

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We are continuously pondering our destiny: Will I be successful? What will I do? Where will I be? Will I get married? Have kids? When? Even though we’re bombarded with quotes and films badgering us to live in the present, it is apart of human nature to question the future, often wondering whether it’s in our control or completely up to fate. While I do believe in a certain degree of fate (it takes guts not to), what I know for sure is that living life for you is what’s truly important. Evidently, this is easier said (or typed) than done. Without even knowing it, we find ourselves looking to impress certain people, making choices to please others and carrying things through in a way we never intended. We must remember to focus on why we’re doing things, and while being selfish is not the solution, keep in mind that being happy with what you’re doing is key.

When it comes to getting approval from others, sometimes the words of your friends or family will make you weary of things you’ve always dreamt of doing. But we must remember that our aspirations may not always match – some may dream of settling down or having big-time careers and others, of lifelong travels. I’ll never forget what one of my best friends Sabrina said about my thoughts of quitting my job to travel: “You should do it Kaylee. I would never do it, but you’ve always been more free-spirited than me. Everything will work out.” I loved that, not just because she approved of my decision, but because she was speaking the absolute truth, admitting she may not do it, but that even so, I should do what I desired.

We are all so different, in the way we’ve been raised, the experiences we’ve had, lessons we’ve retained, people we’ve met. Within the two groups of six best friends I have, I cannot say that any of us are completely at peace in our beliefs, values, ideas or perceptions. This is what makes us unique and why we all find each other so intriguing and special.

So, what can you take away from this rant I’m calling a blog post? Be true to you. Take risks if that’s your thing. Devote yourself to work if it’s what you love. Go back to school if you crave it. Take up something new even if it’s not in ‘vogue’. Move away from everything that you know if something’s missing. And don’t let anything stop you from reaching the destiny that you seek.

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